A.K.A. Trying to have a life during First Trimester Exhaustion.
It is with great liberation, which is only slightly tainted with embarrasment, that I can admit that I have spent the most of the past two months(and certainly all of my holiday time off) going pantless. In this heat, with these raging preggy hormones, and extreme fatigue there was little else I felt like doing, other than being spread eagle on my bed, in said pantless state. Just laying there in undies and sweater, waiting for the sleep gods to take me down into sweet slumber lane. And to be honest I could have done that with all my time till the cows came home (Which is pretty much like my very first pregnancy, except I kept my pants on back then)
But with two busy kids at home…on summer holiday? It was a state I was constantly ripped from. Both through their constant pleading, “what we doing today, mama?!” AND of course thanks to the ever present mommy-guilt that courses through one’s veins. That train is never late, eh? (I mean how dare I take this pantless timeout when my littles are pleading for some fun and stimulation, right? Ugh.)
So whilst we never did get to plough through that amazing Summer to do list that I’ve being cooking up in my head all Winter and Spring (thank you, Extreme First Trimester Fatigue!), we did manage to do a few things.
To be honest I felt so bad about the fact that I havent had much energy to really get out there while our little bun in the oven is taking shape. I mean, if anything our girls are very much like their mama when it comes to doing life : we have an urgent need to carpe diem – every day! For me, everyday is an opportunity to experience something new and amazing or just plain ol’ fun. In fact, before kids (and even more so before marriage) I apparently used to try and squeeze several different kinds of things in my day. Sleep when you’re dead, was my saying back then. And even to this day, when I meet up with old friends from back then, and they regale me with stories of my twenties and how crazy active/busy my life was, that even I think, “how the dickens did I manage that?!”
The point being, I get where my kids are coming from, life is here to be lived and experienced in all it’s different forms, from being unplugged and spread out on the couch in your jammies, to diving with sharks and jumping out of planes. Ok, wait, scratch those planes and shark adventures for now until they dont need an indeminity form from me, but you get what I mean. So whenever we did get out there, it was a like a small victory for me, as I lay sprawled across my bed once back home, with a single fist in the sky, like, “yes, I made it!”
So what did we do? Well, we took it slow, and enjoyed some summer life…
We finally got around to our berry picking with really good friends of our’s…
Straight from there, and purely on a whim, we ended up at Zevenwacht farm. A place I went to and loved several times as a singleton, but never as a mom, and let me just tell you – it’s a clear kid-friendly win!
Their picnic baskets were just to die for – tasty, filling, and not skimping on anything.
Only bummer for the day was that Parker had the worst fall ever from the picnic benches there – landed right on her noggin. I was ready to call it a day, but tough nut over there didnt want to leave.
We’ve met up with some dear buds from out of town at another wine farm – and you must know, it takes a special kind friend to make me willing to actually get up, shower, brush my teeth and show up when I’m in the tight grip of pregnancy fatigue (ok, ok, ok, I’ll stop moaning about it!…Umm, I can’t promise though.)
And if this summer has reminded me of anything, it would be that we are truly blessed to have a few genuine and good friends in our lives. Which brings us to sunset (virgin) drinks and dinners at our friends’ new home, complete with dessert outdoors on blankets, good conversations and a few rounds of pass the parcel that they organized for our girls (but where everyone played with)
But like so many days, we just chilled, and dressed up as unicorns…
So we are somewhat “Summering”, just a bit slower than usual. I’ve missed out/had to pass on so many invites from close friends purely because I doubt it’s socially acceptable to yawn in people’s faces. The good news is, first trimester is almost at the end (yay!) and the summer is still going. So hopefully loads more catching up on Summer and friends in the weeks to come…
Here’s to seizing the day, folks…even if that means lying pantless across the couch all day. You do you. X